Dating after coming out of the closet
Even in this country, there are still pockets of radical faith in which our own are oppressed and silenced. Doing so empowers them — and it’s good for you, too. There is no other way to say it: repressing a vital and beautiful part of your life is bad for your health. Life out of the closet might seem frightening, but there is wellness and health on the other side.
Let’s face an ugly fact here: some people can’t come out.
wiki How is a “wiki,” similar to Wikipedia, which means that many of our articles are co-written by multiple authors. You may want to stop and think about whether you are doing the right thing by confiding in certain people at this point.
To create this article, 102 people, some anonymous, worked to edit and improve it over time. The key is to know if you are ready, then choose the first people you tell for their potential as positive supporters, and then decide whether or not you would like some of your more casual acquaintances to know.
All things considered, it wasn’t so bad, and nothing like the horror stories I’ve heard from my peers: I had a roof over my head, good food, and no one ever laid a hand on me or kicked me out. I was 16, and I remember it being incredibly painful.
I was scared of myself, scared of my life ahead, scared of my parents, scared of the nightly Bible reading sessions with my dad following my coming out, and scared of the Sunday morning church service, after which our pastor would come shake my hand directly and look at me with his cold, glossy, damning eyes, knowing my truth that my parents had filled him in on in a religious panic.
Do not let their bravery or their hard work be in vain.
We have been punished and marginalized for years, and many of us come from closets, so we often oppress each other in turn, just as bullied kids become bullies.Your LGBT family is not perfect, but it is your family. Support bi people, who often get cruelly erased from the conversation, and trans folk, who have been fighting for us perhaps longer than any other member of the acronym. “I read somewhere — and the person who wrote this was not a mountaineer but a sailor — that the sea’s only gifts are harsh blows and, occasionally, the chance to feel strong.Now, I don’t know much about the sea, but I do know that that’s the way it is here.And I also know how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong, to measure yourself at least once.” Coming out was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.Even when I became HIV-positive in college, it paled in comparison to the last two years I lived in my parents’ house.