Dating too soon after death
When I first became a widow, I thought I'd never date again.My 10-year marriage to my late husband Justin wasn't perfect, and we didn't always see eye to eye, but we had something unique. My devotion to Justin was something I held in high regard.If I was ever going to get back out there, I needed to be prepared. Prebook, I felt depressed, insecure, and vulnerable. If there is one issue that can create division, and even anger, in a room full of widows and widowers, it’s the topic of dating after the loss of a spouse.Of course the reaction we feel in each situation could be very different but our response can be the same no matter who is asking or how they say it/ask it. And most importantly try not to let the questions or statements get to you (easier said than done, I know).Let these people in your life know that you love your spouse, that you are grieving your spouse, and that you simply are not ready, nor are you sure you will ever be ready to welcome another person into your life in that way. Remember that in most cases they come from a place of love and concern.
Then I remembered it was originally a book, a dating guide for single girls.
Or of being rushed into something we’re not ready for?
Is just the thought of having to start over, to put ourselves out there just too overwhelming or too exhausting?
The fact is we all come from different backgrounds.
Even within our own family, our experiences within that family can be so unique that we have a completely different set of morals, values, and coping mechanisms than our siblings.