Exclusive dating transition conversation
” For Greg and Gina, this conversation occurred at the four month point in their relationship.
Despite his determination to take things slow and easy, he began to envision a long, blissful future together.These ideas will help the conversation go smoothly: Broach the issue clearly.It’s too vague to ask, “So what’s happening with this relationship? Chances are you want to know if you’ve crossed the boundary from “going out informally” to “dating exclusively.” If you feel ready to stop dating other people, that is an appropriate time to ask if your partner is ready to do the same. Probing each other’s feelings can be intense, so be careful about when and where you talk.And although he was sure about his own ardent feelings for Gina, he wasn’t quite sure she felt as strongly in return.So on one summer evening, with a picnic dinner spread out on a blanket, Greg popped the question—not the marriage question, but the all-important dating question: “Where do we stand with each other?
I don’t want to date anyone but you.” She grinned added, “Boyfriend/girlfriend, going steady, a committed couple—whatever you want to call it, count me in.” That declaration of commitment was for Greg and Gina an important milestone in their unfolding relationship.