The tao of sexual dating for men
I must say, I am relieved not to be dating anymore. It wasn’t my intention to perpetuate any stereotypes about men and sex. How much time would you ideally like to spend with the other person, at first? Knowing what you want is key and if you have regret or guilt, then you haven't thought it through.
To clarify, I wrote that “men (gay and straight) seem quite capable of unattached sex.” In my experience, a fair amount of men did seem ready, willing and able to have sex at my beck and call. Whether you’re looking for someone or you’ve already met that intriguing new person, knowing your own needs in and wants for the relationship is the essential first step. I've been happily married for 16 years, but my kids are teens.
Can you be radically grateful for your life, whether you are single and mingling or coupled or married or divorced or whatever?
But first, I’ve got to warn you: I have taught this technique you’re about to learn to over 110,000 guys just like you who live in over 30 countries around the world, and it’s going to make hot women stare at you and uncontrollably chase you. And trust me, you’ve never seen anything like this before. She told me that her dad was making a surprise visit, and she never told him that she was dating anyone, and definitely not that she was living with someone. So she told me to get all my stuff and leave the house for a couple of days, so he wouldn’t find out that I lived there with her. I got all my stuff packed into my little crappy black Honda Accord and drove out not having any idea where I’d go.
Like yoga (and tennis and any habit), total honesty takes practice. When sex enters the picture, it intensifies everything. When bridging the gap between friendly love and romantic love, it’s best to define the relationship’s boundaries frequently.
Act with integrity, and share your intentions for yourself and for the relationship with your partner.
Yeah, I know most guys would tell you all about their different media appearances they’ve done, all the books they have authored, blah, blah. I have a credentialed resume that would make the biggest player you know run home to his mama. So how did the skinny little loser looking dude go from zero to sleeping with up to 15 new hotties a month, did I get rich, did I memorize the line after lame ass line, did I put on pheromone cologne? If you looked up whip in the dictionary, it’d say, see Josh Pellicer. It wouldn’t have been too bad really, but I had to do it for three days in a row.
Now listen if you’re smart, you don’t give a damn about that. You probably just want the juice, the secret sauce, and I am going to get to that in just a few seconds, right after my sex story. In fact, if I hadn’t hit complete rock-bottom, I’d probably still be terrible to this day. And on the third day, something happened and I snapped.
Be grateful for the awkward first dates, because they make the awesome ones all the better by comparison.